Am I being too picky?

A REPOST:

" I'm a busy person and gushing with guys isn't my thing, just one of the reasons why I remain single. As I knuckle down myself into work there are guys who still have guts to invite me for a date. I appreciate the time and attention but how can i accept such invitation?

Mr. X is very talkative.When we converse, the spotlight was focused on him. He'll brag about his business, his car and everything external to him that I don't really care about. Since we're working night shift he would invite me for a breakfast and offer to drive me home. Isn't that sweet? Guess what i found out?...He's married

Mr. Y never fails to compliment me. A guy who's certainly expressive and impulsive. Without any convivial talk, he bluntly invited me for a date. Is he running out of time that he needs to do it in a hurried pace? I think it's better to go out with someone you've been friend for quite a while. Regardless of the approach,I could have said yes if only i never learned that at the same time ...he's courting another girl

Forget about Mr. Z, he's nothing but a variable with the same insincerity.

Date is a process of getting to know each other. Who would take time to know more of people who are in the first place fooling around? They said that I should have at least tried to go out, anyway "it's just a date". I'm not sure if I'm right and their wrong. I just want to go out with a guy who can be himself.

My friend told me that I'm too picky. Am I? Can someone tell me where are the sincere guys in this world? Are they playing hide and seek?"

I was a member of an anonymous blogger community before but then I stopped and continued writing at blogger.com. We are all total strangers and none of my closest friends were able to read it. Suddenly, it crossed my mind and decided to visit my page, there I found this post and decided to repost it here.

Going through it, I realized there are things that changed.

-I stopped telling "I am busy". If you keep on telling "I don't have time", you won't really find time.
-I don't knuckle down myself at work anymore. I take it easy.
-For those who throw invitations, I still appreciate the time and effort but this time I think I have to accept it (sincere ones). I'll give them a chance, at least a moment.

And if good guys are playing hide and seek wether they're in jungles, caves or into the depth of oceans, why not take a pause and appreciate what's right next to me waving hands close to my face.

A friend of mine made me promise that I won't say "NO" to any good intentions about to come. That I will start kissing frogs 'till I find my prince. I told her I met my prince and told me that the problem is he never looked at me as a princess. Ouch! Just another slap on my face and so we just focus on my promise and it's just for good intentions, not for X and Y guys.

Too bad...I'm keeping my words.

Whew...

Point of Realization

It never happened...NOT because "It's not meant to be" BUT because you haven't done your BIG move for the sake of it.

You just stare at it and let it slip away...

So now, you lie into the ocean of regrets.

Will it be too late?

Will there be another chance?

Will You Just Live the Day or Plan for Tomorrow?

Year ended, year started... So how things went on us for the passed 365 days?

I bought a planner last year. Accompanied by a friend, she saw me handling the thing and asked me in perplexity, "What are you suppose to do with that?!"

Though she sounded like she wanted me to bring it back from where I got it, I know she's not playing ignorant and I'm sure she knows how in this world it is being used. My friend just can't get the point of planning a "day".

Half of the year, I forgot about the planner. It rested inside my closet and hadn't got a time to glance on it. The year ended, I found my planner back and turned every pages.

From the month of January to June, I enjoyed knowing details of what had happened from the past, what I had accomplished and little tasks left unchecked because I failed to do so.

It's when I plan for tomorrow...

I went through the month of July to December, pages were neat with no trace of my pointed pen. But I know since events went unplanned, I got a lot of surprises along the way. Things went done without me worrying too much.

It's when I just live the day...

The comparison:

Just because you plan for the next day doesn't mean you're too anxious for tomorrow, anyway being organized won't hurt. Well, you don't really need to purchase a planner. Having a mental notes of your goals will be fine though writing it down and making it visible is a good way of reminding yourself. The downside? You hate surprises. It's annoying when your boss begs you for an overtime and it's on your plan to go home early so you can do your stuff. You hate it when someone calls you for an immediate reason and you're supposed to stay at home because that's your plan for your most awaited rest day.

On the other hand...

Just because you go ahead live the day doesn't mean you don't really give attention. It's always a great thing to live a carefree life, enjoying and taking each moment. The downside? You misses out little things that soon can be a part of a big mistake. Enjoying too much might lead you to boredom at the end because you never realize certain things were getting mundane. And of course you hate to see someone carrying a planner and ask that person in an amusing tone "What are you suppose to do with that?!"

Which way is better? Which one works for you? I'll be glad to know and collate some good points. ;0)