Visual Creatures

While men are huddling around with women as their talking point, well...on the other side, women are having consensus that men are certainly visual creatures, they can't help...but look.

Of course, men are just scattered around. You can have an eye on them everywhere.

Here he is...Mr. Just-Like-A-Slobbering-Dog

I just needed one ride and I'll be at my destination ready to do some work. Almost late and with dwindling patience, I waited for a vehicle that could possibly fly and bring me there. Few inches from me was a guy with his head going back and forth ready to grab a door of an empty cab. "Seems everyone is so preoccupied by such a busy day".... I told myself

Suddenly, a lady just crossed the road. She got smooth legs under her mini skirt, well sculptured shoulder, red pair of lips and hips that moved like a pendulum.

In the real world, everything was still moving at the normal speed but not for the guy who was few inches from me. He stared at the lady as if the moment was in slow motion. Who seemed to be a busy guy just minutes ago turned out to be a slobbering dog. I observed him while his gaze was fixed at the gorgeous lady and I could tell that if a meteor was about to fall on the ground and crush him into pieces, because of the moving flesh...he wouldn't care.

Meet him...Mr. Oblivious-Of-My-Presence

At work, it was our 15-minute break. My office mate and I went downstairs and headed at the smoking area. I don't smoke but decided to go with him to warm myself a bit since the air con was blowing straight at my workstation making me feel as if I'm working at the North Pole.

It was a good conversation not until he moved his head 90 degrees angular. A voluptuous woman passing by stole his attention from me. As I speak, my voice trailed off and my mind just found way to end with what i was saying. For a moment he became oblivious of my presence. I felt invisible.

There was an uncomfortable feeling. I asked myself "Reign...is that insecurity?". But who the hell cares if she's sexy and I'm not? Maybe the guy I'm talking to cares...but not me.

I know I shouldn't expect others to treat me the way I treat them, most of the time that's not how the world works, but personally I'm taking it as something unfair. When I am with a guy and he's on the verve of conversing with me, I look into his eyes and give him an undivided attention. Mr. Oblivious-Of-My-Presence could have realized that at the moment. And if I'm talking with someone I value so much, I don't even care whether a famous celebrity pass by. When i say "I am with you" , I mean "I am with you". I have nothing against those who spot hottie men, I have girlfriends who are good at it and I try to join them by simply giving little comments but hardly take the initiative.

I opened the topic with a friend, by then, I learned I wasn't alone. She got the same notion like i have and that uncomfortable feeling was not something unknown to others.

So what I did? I joined guys. Now I don't mind.

As I was speaking with guys who happen to be my colleagues, a lady passed by. I took a pause in the middle of what I was saying. "Look at her guys...is she hottie?" . Trying to hook who among them will make a difference. Funny...they all failed me.

Once I did that with another guy, when I pointed the hottie girl, he looked back at me and uttered, "Reign, are you a lesbian?". I laughed.

To be fair enough, guys may flirt the whole day with all the girls around but at the end of the day before he close his eyes, he only thinks of the one he truly loves. Am I right?

As for me, I am a indeed a visual creature but my eyes are drawn for only one man.

HEALTH CAUTION FOR MEN: SMOOTH SKIN UNDER MINISKIRTS CAN CAUSE STIFF-NECK

Today, I Make No Sense...

I am jealous or maybe not.


I am upset... and i hate the feeling...Crap!


Someone who doesn't
deserve it at all...


If he doesn't care...why would I?


He has no idea...

Are girls really ASSUMING?

I passed by a clique of guys and eavesdropped for what they agreed upon. As i heard, a lady can jump into a romantic presumptions from a guy who just simply showing a genuine kindness. According to them female species are indeed very "assuming". Anyone who wants to agree?

Well...I belong to that feminine primates they're discussing about but of course i have no plans to butt in or wave a red flag as if a war is about to begin. Instead, I ponder on it and realized things. I can befriend with any gender but I spend most of my time with girls. Want to meet some of them?

Meet Miss Sweet Text Messages...

Inside a cab, I was sitting beside her. As she sent the message to the guy who happened to be her love interest, she told me how she greatly appreciate every reply she got. "Look at this! Isn't he so sweet to me?" . With such extreme enthusiasm she showed me all messages nesting on her inbox. Each has a touch of sweetness with triple smiles by its end.

Little did she know that the guy, our common friend, was sending me messages with the same exact approach as if he has a standard syntax. Sure, i did appreciate the form of affection and could have felt that same tickling feelings but for me duplicating actions sometimes ain't consider special.

If a guy hugs every person in this world, so what if he hugs you?

Meet Miss Delayed Gift...

It was passed her birthday but she met us for a treat. As we waited for the guy, I could sense her excitement and fidgets vibrating on the ground. From a distance, the guy, who again used to be a common friend emerged handling a bag of gift.

We watched movie, finished a dinner...time went by and the gift rested on his own hand 'till we needed to split ways. When it was just me and her, Miss Delayed Gift asked me with such intense disappointment. "See the gift he was carrying? I know it's for me! Why was he so shy to give it?" With a heavy shrug and my few words, all i could say was "I don't know."

After a week, I had learned that on the day we met, the guy went to a Christmas party and the exchange gift he luckily got was the one he was carrying the whole time. So there's no way that Miss Delayed Gift can have it because the gift was exclusively for himself! (oh...my)

I got more "assuming" stories but let's just go to what I've learned

Yes, girls might be assuming but no, not all of them. Generalizing can be unfair at times.

It takes a keen observation to know what was intended in a real sense and before you begin better set aside your sentiments and be less emotional. Because if you focus on what you feel every simple "hi" and "hello" will feels like close to heaven. Deceiving as it may seems. Distinguish who are just naturally sweet and incurably flirt.

Have a friend beside who can be honest enough to give pieces of advice as soft as hugs and opinions as painful as a slap (thanks i got one).

I believe in woman instinct, when you just knew it. But as long as there's no concrete move from a guy or any serious intentions then keep you mouth shut. Your instinct may be functioning perfectly but feelings change, he might likes you today but not tomorrow.

And by the way, the blame is not entirely for one gender. There are guys who are emotionally provoking. They'll treat you like princess, relish your heart with sugar coated words, makes you feel sexy and when you just bite the bait, he'll say

"You know, it was just nothing..."

Isn't that great? He sounds like it was all your fault and now he calls you "assuming" ?

Anyways all i really want to say is that at some point of our lives it's good to...

Don't expect too much, because it's better to be surprised than be disappointed.